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Finer Virtues for the Sexual World

Does this mean that a lower
frequency of sex in the couple is a sign of his sexual failure? Not in the
least. If the “diet” is for both partners, they feel good together,
they do not feel frustrated or resentful, and there are no questions to ask.
They can make love several times a day but mechanically, without investing the
relationship, because they do not really desire. Thus, a relationship can be
sexual without being eroticized or vice versa. Because what makes eroticism,
what sexualizes the bond, it is not necessarily the sexual act, but the desire.

The Ideas of Sexual Pleasures

Freud would therefore finally be
right. Everything is sexual, since our desire is engaged. “And it starts
with the orality in the baby.

Everything can be eroticized:a voice, a gesture, writes a letter,
exchange a look in the subway. Depending on their history, some will invest
more than others in sexual activity. For psychoanalysis, the taste for sexual
activity is not a question of temperament but of psychic energy that one engages
here rather than there. It is also, psychiatrist specializing in addictions, a
question of genes. We now know that there are biological determinants that
explain the differences in sexual appetite. Certain genes encourage the search
for intense sensations and pleasure. Individuals with this genetic capital tend
to have earlier and more active sexuality throughout their lives. They are also
people who are more sensitive to addictions. This biological determinant
influences sexual behavior by up to 30%. The other two-thirds concern early
development (our first emotional ties) and the social context (family culture,
culture of society). Yet it is not this genetic capital that will necessarily
make sexuality an intense experience. Be it the physical sex or the furry sex games you can get the best from them only.

Enjoyment as conquest on oneself

What makes sex unique, what it
brings essential to our lives, it is a pleasure that carries us and which, to
happen, requires that we abandon the concern for our image, the control of our
body, fear of being judged. “There is something ruthless in the encounter
with ourselves to which desire and enjoyment call us,” says the
psychoanalyst. All that we take for granted, our tastes, our certainties, our
fears, everything shatters when we agree to abandon ourselves.

Including in the couple

It is not the habits that kill
sexuality, it is the fear of discovering oneself, of showing unknown,
disturbing facets of oneself. It is not to allow this disclosure. It is easier
to incriminate the other (he does not propose anything to me) or the
“mechanics” (I have erection problems) or prefer the idea of ​​a
fading sexuality, rather than explore its diversity. Enjoyment as a conquest:
on oneself, on our prejudices, our certainties, our fears, and on our
unavowable propensity to seek security rather than freedom.

The revolution through orgasm

The work of Wilhelm Reich
(1897-1957), psychiatrist and psychoanalyst disciple of Freud, known for his
commitment to the liberation of the masses by sexual satisfaction, arouses a
renewed interest. His theses resurface every time we try to understand
barbarism (that of pedophile priests, assassins of Daesh) as an effect of
sexual repression.